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6 Reasons Why Sending Your Child to Private School Won’t Change Their Outcome

May 24, 2025 | Leave a Comment

6 Reasons Why Sending Your Child to Private School Wont Change Their Outcome

When parents think about giving their child the “best,” private school often tops the list of options. With their polished brochures, small class sizes, and promises of academic rigor, private schools look like a fast track to future success. But here’s the hard truth—tuition doesn’t guarantee transformation. A private education might look impressive on paper, but it isn’t a magic wand for long-term achievement, happiness, or even college admissions. Here’s why spending thousands on private school may not actually change your child’s outcome in the way you think it will.

1. Parental Involvement Matters More Than Tuition

Study after study shows that a parent’s engagement in their child’s education has a greater impact on academic success than the school itself. Whether your child is enrolled in public or private school, your presence at conferences, help with homework, and attitude toward learning sets the tone. Children with supportive, involved parents often outperform those with expensive resources but limited emotional support. Private school can’t replace consistent parenting. It’s what happens at the dinner table and during bedtime chats that truly shapes a child’s future.

2. Success Comes From Motivation, Not Zip Codes

You can enroll a child in the most elite institution, but if they’re not motivated to learn or emotionally ready to thrive, it won’t matter. Internal drive, curiosity, and resilience play a bigger role in long-term outcomes than school prestige. Private schools might provide more structured environments, but they can’t manufacture grit or spark passion. In fact, pressure-cooker environments can sometimes backfire, causing burnout or anxiety. A child who feels confident and inspired will go further, regardless of where they go to school.

3. The Same Curriculum Exists in Public Schools

Contrary to popular belief, many public schools offer just as rigorous an academic program as private schools—sometimes even more so. Honors, Advanced Placement, and International Baccalaureate programs are widely available and often taught by experienced educators. The belief that private automatically means “better academics” doesn’t hold up across the board. Many public school students thrive academically, gain college acceptances, and develop leadership skills in diverse, real-world settings. The curriculum isn’t what makes the difference—it’s how it’s taught and received.

4. College Admissions Don’t Favor Private Students

While some private schools have well-staffed college counseling offices, universities are increasingly focused on the student, not the school. Admissions officers look for well-rounded individuals, not just a fancy transcript header. In fact, many value students who have excelled with fewer resources, viewing them as more resilient and grounded. Public school students who challenge themselves and take initiative are just as likely to gain admission to top colleges. Spending more on private school doesn’t guarantee a better shot at elite universities.

5. Diversity and Real-World Experience Are Limited

One often overlooked benefit of public schools is the diversity—of thought, background, race, and socioeconomic experience. This helps prepare children for the real world, where they’ll need to collaborate with people from all walks of life. Some private schools are highly homogeneous, offering a more sheltered view of the world. That can create a disconnect when it comes time to navigate diverse college campuses or workplaces. Exposure to different perspectives builds empathy and adaptability in ways textbooks can’t.

6. The Price Tag Doesn’t Reflect Personal Fit

Just because something is expensive doesn’t mean it’s right for your child. Not all kids thrive in academically intense or socially competitive environments. A quieter child may feel overwhelmed, while a more independent learner may feel constrained. In some cases, children perform worse under the pressure to “justify” their tuition. The best school is one where your child feels supported, challenged, and known—not necessarily the one with the highest tuition bill.

Your Involvement is the Best Investment

At the end of the day, the biggest factor in your child’s outcome is not the logo on their uniform but the support system around them. Encouragement, structure, and love will outlast any school enrollment list. If private school works for your family, that’s great—but it isn’t a guarantee of success. When you prioritize connection over comparison, and growth over image, you give your child something far more valuable than a pricey education. The most powerful influence in their life is—and always will be—you.

Have you considered public vs. private school for your child? What factors influenced your decision? Share your story in the comments!

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Catherine Reed
Catherine Reed

Catherine is a tech-savvy writer who has focused on the personal finance space for more than eight years. She has a Bachelor’s in Information Technology and enjoys showcasing how tech can simplify everyday personal finance tasks like budgeting, spending tracking, and planning for the future. Additionally, she’s explored the ins and outs of the world of side hustles and loves to share what she’s learned along the way. When she’s not working, you can find her relaxing at home in the Pacific Northwest with her two cats or enjoying a cup of coffee at her neighborhood cafe.

Filed Under: Education Tagged With: child education, Family Budgeting, parenting advice, parenting choices, private school, public school vs private school, school decision-making

Is Private School Worth the Cost?

August 13, 2014 | 1 Comment

private school costsA lady I work with is paying for her daughter to go through an elite Catholic private school in the city. The other day at lunch she was telling me how stressed her and her husband were about now discussing paying for post secondary education.

Apparently the daughter announced that she was looking more closely at an expensive university in our nations capital, tens of thousands of kilometers away. The parents assumed she’d always stay close to home and live with them until university was finished, moving was never in the question.

I tried to remind her that she could still potentially get scholarships (she’s only in grade 11) or, worst case, get a student loan. Mom was appalled I had even suggested a loan. When I asked why, she said it was her ”duty” as a mother to provide 100% for her child, all education included. She would work full-time until she was 80 if it meant that her kid finished any and all post secondary debt-free. This, after paying $12,000 per year for the last 12 years for the private school.

While I agree that yes, it is a parents responsibility to provide for their child to the best of their abilities I am of the opinion that private school is a luxury and if my child choose to pursue a post secondary education beyond what my husband and I could help her with, then she’d be on her own to figure out the difference.

Private School Considerations

Our daughter is only two. We’re not yet thinking too much about where she will attend primary education, but I still think about whether or not we will enroll her in private school or public school. If we enroll her in private school there are many things to consider:

  • Arguable that she would get a better education and have a much more ”fun” time while in school since private schools have opportunities that public schools may not. However, both my husband and I, along with many of our friends who attended pubic school, had a very positive experience and many of us are quite successful. I have to wonder if, with our daughter growing up in an environment catered to nurturing her education, she would gain that much more in educational experience?
  • There’s the $12,000++ tuition every year for private school that, while a tax deduction for us parents, in my opinion may be much better used invested for post secondary opportunities (FYI: we already save monthly in a registered investment savings for post secondary for her). We could use the $1,000/month in many beneficial ways for our daughter in terms of extracurricular activities, travel, educational experiences as a family rather than for one member of the family.
  • Could be argued that if she is successful in private school, she may have more scholarship opportunities, combined with the arguable better education, may not need any savings from mom and dad.
  • Both private schools in the city are pretty far from where we would ever live and we’d need to deal with the expense of getting her to school everyday (gas, bridge tolls etc) in today’s dollars, based on our current location, would cost about $100 more per month in travel.

I’m leaning more towards public school and allocating a large portion of ”would be private school money” to other things for kiddo.

We couldn’t afford private school as well as many extracurricular activities. Both my husband and I will be very involved with her schooling, there’s no doubt she will be successful wherever she goes but we need to do what’s best for the family. If we have more than one child we certainly couldn’t afford two kids in private school, which is a whole other issue.

Did you/will your kids go to private school? Was it ”worth” it?

Catherine
Catherine

Catherine is a first time momma to a rambunctious toddler. When she isn’t soaking up all that motherhood has to offer, you can find her blogging over at Plunged in Debt where she chronicles her and her husbands journey out of debt. You can also follow her on Twitter.

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Basic Principles Of Good Parenting

Here some basic principles for good parenting:

  1. What You Do Matters: Your kids are watching you. So, be purposeful about what you want to accomplish.
  2. You Can’t be Too Loving: Don’t replace love with material possessions, lowered expectations or leniency.
  3. Be Involved Your Kids Life: Arrange your priorities to focus on what your kid’s needs. Be there mentally and physically.
  4. Adapt Your Parenting: Children grow quickly, so keep pace with your child’s development.
  5. Establish and Set Rules: The rules you set for children will establish the rules they set for themselves later.  Avoid harsh discipline and be consistent.
  6. Explain Your Decisions: What is obvious to you may not be evident to your child. They don’t have the experience you do.
  7. Be Respectful To Your Child: How you treat your child is how they will treat others.  Be polite, respectful and make an effort to pay attention.
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